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You get what you tolerate – Dr Henry Cloud, Psychologist. When you feel yourself becoming angry, resentful or exhausted, pay attention to where you haven’t set a healthy boundary – Crystal Andrus, Life Coach. I got what I tolerated. I was angry, resentful and exhausted... A quick search on the Internet about boundary setting can show that there is lots of advice about protecting and empowering ourselves with boundaries. We can learn that "No" is a full sentence or that we must create boundaries to first and foremost care for ourselves. These ideals are perhaps what we dream of. We might think that if we can just do it, things will get better or be fixed. How can we do this inside an abusive relationship with a narcissist / psychopath / sociopath  though? I don't have the answer because I couldn't do it. Being trapped in my unhappy marriage was disempowering, paralysing, debilitating, draining and exhausting. I was so tired, miserable and ground down t...

Narcissist / Psychopath / Sociopath The descriptions and traits below are taken from Internet sources. There are many books written on the subject too. This blog is just intended to be a place to start if you're wondering what Narcissist / Psychopath / Sociopath. I recommend you that you do some more digging around if you need more information. Sociopathy vs. Psychopathy vs. Antisocial Personality Disorder There is often confusion between these terminologies because of wide overlapping of the features. Sociopathy is nearly synonymous with antisocial personality disorder. Antisocial personality disorder is a medical diagnosis which is commonly termed as sociopathy. However, some people may have some features of sociopathy which may not be suffice to meet the diagnostic criteria for antisocial personality disorder. They may also be called (albeit wrongly) sociopaths. Some people consider psychopathy synonymous with sociopathy. However, psychopathy is a more severe form of s...

Friends show their love in times of trouble, not happiness. This isn't the neighbourhood bully mocking me - I could take that. This isn't a foreign devil spitting invective - I could tune that out. It's you! We grew up together! You! My best friend! - King David from the Bible in Psalm 55:12-14 . These words are taken from a paraphrase of the bible. I chose them because they say how I feel. Another quote also expresses what happened to me... "I've been stabbed in the back by those I needed most" - Author Unknown. I am writing this blog to assure people in, or recovering from relationships with narcissists / psychopaths. If you can relate to anything I have written below; you are not alone. What you are going through might actually be happening, and not your imagination. My first blog ( here ) outlined my situation and beliefs. Having been a Christian for all of my life, the vast majority of my friends were Christians. It happens this way wh...