My heart of flesh.

Law #1: Sowing and reaping, cause and effect - same thing. If you don't set the alarm clock, you sleep in, you're late for work and in trouble. You don't put oil in the car engine, it seizes up. You do everything for a child, they become helpless. A person treats their partner badly, the partner leaves. The majority of people know these rules and they know from experience or fable that by and large, these laws are true...for most people. Narcissists, psychopaths and sociopaths  are not most people. They are a law unto themselves. Often, they do not reap what they sow. We, their partners step in for them and interrupt this law. The law is not broken, it is still working. We are reaping. As such, we are unwittingly enabling what hurts us so much too. We become the narcissist's ally, perhaps even co-dependent  in the sense that our lives are organised around the behaviours and needs of the narcissist and priority is given to the avoidance of upsetting th...